Some times I sit and wonder what kind of example am I setting for my son. Sometimes it’s a good one based on the things people tell me, but days like today where I have no patience and I snap back quicker than I should, I wonder if that is how he sees me.
Parenting is supposed to be for 2 people. I say that and other mothers tell me it’s no difference even if the father is around and I have to bite my tongue and wonder what the hell they know about being a single parent because your husband doesn’t play his part as much as you think he should. You still have 2 people your child can talk to, two people who are involved, two people to share the attention with and mostly two people who both have an income.
Someone asked me the other day, what kind of goals do I have for myself? I immediately responded with, “I have a goal for the type of life I want to give my child”. And he then said, that’s for your son, what kind of goal do you have for yourself? And I forgot what that feels like, I forgot how to think like that. My every being is made up by how well I can raise my son. How well I can adapt and what I give up in order to make him happy. I have no idea who I am outside of being a mother.
I am lost without him, and I feel like I am failing him. I struggle and struggle and I constantly feel like I take my hardships out on him because I don’t have any one here to hold my hand and help me and support me emotionally. I lash out because I hold so much in because I know once I let someone in, they never want to be there.
I am the queen of impossible relationships and what ifs and I wish I woulda’s. I wish I had someone to talk to that wanted to take my pain and feel it with me and figure it out together. I am sick of always needing and always wanting and never being wanted in return.
It’s hard to show my son what a strong man looks like when we don’t see them in our lives often.